Today I will be sharing with you four specific actions you can take to control your social media consumption so that it brings you peace, joy, happiness and enlightenment instead of stress, anxiety, fear, apprehension, and insecurity. 🌸 Do you follow a lot of news outlets? Please unfollow ALL of them. The news is written by real humans who are dealing with stress, anxiety, fear and insecurities and the articles they are writing are merely transmitting those emotions to you. The writers are not ill intended, they’re just people doing their jobs. But it’s up to us to think critically and make choices so that we feel happy and grounded. The world is not a terrible place and there is actually a lot of love, joy, peace, and good things happening but humans are naturally attracted to negativity because it’s necessarily for our survival- it’s a defense mechanism. If you want to step out of your primitive brain and step into your higher consciousness then start by unfollowing all news outlets. 🍬Is there someone you are friends with on Facebook or Instagram or anywhere else that posts content that you stresses you out, ends up making you feel negative thoughts and feelings and generally makes you feel more uncomfortable than happy? You can unfollow them on Facebook or mute them on Instagram. You're not doing this to hurt their feelings, you're doing this because you're self-aware of your limits, needs and want to create healthy boundaries online. 💗 Turn off your notifications to Facebook, Instagram, TikTok, and all other apps. Go to your settings > notifications and make sure that all notifications in your phone are turned off. You can leave your text message notifications on. This way you don’t receive notifications on your phone every second. These notifications are designed by programmers to cause an addictive response in us; they are meant to make us afraid and anxious. It’s supposed to make us wonder what our friend texted us and what comment Sally left on our latest instagram image. We are going to be smarter and sharper by disabling all notifications on all apps. 🦄 I’m going to give you some topics that you can follow on Instagram and Facebook or TikTok that will help you feel happy, joyful and at peace. These are: all animals, food, cooking, nature, traveling, comedy, and art. I would be selective about accounts that share quotes- while quotes are meant to be inspirational sometimes the quotes are just merely reflecting the internal suffering of the writer and not so much an optimistic and healed view of life. So be careful of what words you are reading, these can effect you emotionally as well. 🌵Facebook: http://facebook.com/shahedesigns 🐠Instagram: http://instagram.com/shahedesigns 🐬Website: http://shahedesigns.com 🦋Email: [email protected] 🐛Phone # (call or text): 619-630-9608
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Many people have lost motivation during the corona virus pandemic and don’t know why or if it’s useful to continue investing in their business and attempting to attract new customers/clients. I’m going to share with you my perspective and my thoughts based off of my experience having a small business. I have a small business in graphic design, web design, writing and social media management. This post isn’t about me advertising my services but rather sharing my thoughts and experience about running a business during COVID. The reality is that many people have experienced a loss whether it is financial and/or a beloved family member’s death from COVID. Those who don’t think they have lost anything, have at least lost motivation, connection, and community because of reduced freedom and increased restrictions. Everyone has been affected by this pandemic in one way or another. According to a study by Yale University, “more than 60% of respondents [in a survey] reported laying off at least one employee due to the pandemic, and 31% stated that they expected to have layoffs within the next 60 days. A quarter of respondents don’t expect to ever recover, and 31% reported believing that they have a 50% chance of going bankrupt or out of business within the next six months” that’s as of March 2020. This is the reality of small businesses in the United States and it’s a terrible one. However, I am an eager optimist and I firmly believe that as individuals we have power and control over the reality that we shape and experience. What this means is that although the corona virus pandemic has created significant loss I do not think that success is impossible or that we cannot overcome this big hurdle. I believe there is a solution for every problem. I believe the problem is not the problem but our thinking is the problem. This is not dismiss the severity of the pandemic but it is taking into account the power that we always have in every situation. I value being empowered and overcoming adversity. In the beginning of this pandemic I also had a couple of weeks where I was unmotivated and did not want to continue building my business or attracting new clients. My thinking was “who cares? everyone is not working anyways and this pandemic is literally everyone’s nightmare. nothing that I do will have an impact on my business. i might as well wait until this pandemic is over” That’s what I was thinking for a couple of weeks. However, I realized that thinking like that is pessimistic and makes me feel like I’ve given up on myself and on my passion and business. I asked myself: “are you willing to continue existing in this world with such a pessimistic and dis-empowering attitude about life and obstacles?” The answer was “no.” I was not willing to give up on myself and my business regardless of the size of the obstacle. Being honest with myself, confronting my beliefs, and evaluating how my attitude was making me feel dis-empowered helped me come to a new belief: I will continue to consistently improve my business, build new contacts and attract new clients even during the corona virus. I realized that I did not want to waste time and give up, I was going to invest in my business and stay committed. I cannot give up just because there is an obstacle and because things are harder. If things are hard, I need to be tougher. I started consistently marketing my business, posting, learning and improving my practices and I continue to do so to this day. Simply put things are not black and white. Things are not all or nothing. There is a lot of grey and that grey area is what I use to stay committed and focused on my goal and vision for my business. I am open to discussing this further and having conversations about challenges that we face as business owners. Feel free to connect with me anywhere on social media. I enjoy meeting new people and love learning. Facebook: http://facebook.com/shahedesigns Instagram: http://instagram.com/shahedesigns website: http://shahedesigns.com email: [email protected] phone # (call or text): 619-630-9608 As a person who spends a lot of time on social media and the internet because all of my job requires me to, I thought I would write my tips and tricks on how to use social media to foster relationships- whether it's your friends, co-workers, or acquaintances. Please be aware that while these are my tips and tricks, I do not mean to tell you what to do or how to interact in your relationships. This is written as a guide for those who are confused, often times thinking if they've done the right thing or if they want to understand social media better. Ultimately each person will understand and perceive things differently because we all carry different personalities, worldviews, and (sub)conscious beliefs. Therefore, I hope the following tips and tricks help you understand some things, learn new things or just ask further questions. 1. When someone comments on your post at least like or react to their comment to acknowledge them. They took their time to respond to you, responding back to them is certainly not necessary; but, if you want to be perceived as friendly and communicative this is something that you can do. 2. Understand that word choice, tone, and grammar impacts how your words will be perceived. If you don’t like writing or you don’t trust that you can write in a way to communicate friendliness then I would recommend writing less. The alternative is simply mentioning your intention or what you’re thinking and clarifying yourself so others understand you. Either approach works. 3. You don’t have to like everything one person posts. However if it is a person that you’re looking to communicate more with in real life it does help to show an interest in their online life or their interests. The frequency can be according to what you think is comfortable for you. 4. If you don’t want someone to think you are obsessed with them I would advise you not to like or comment on every post. If you want them to know you are very interested in them then by all means like away! 5. When using Facebook messenger, try not to open a conversation until you are ready to read AND respond. Facebook messenger shows the sender that you’ve read their message. It’s normal for people in this virtual world to feel anxious if they know that you’ve read their message but did not reply back. Yes, you might have real life reasons like your children, work, doctor etc. but people get anxious about this regardless. If you don't want to get messenger notifications then go to your phone settings > notifications > messenger and turn it off this way you can open messenger when you are ready and can respond to your messages in your own timing without feeling compelled to read right away. 6. If someone says something that sounds hurtful, rude, disrespectful, etc. my best tip is to withhold your reaction and simply respond with “I’m not sure I’m understanding you correctly. Can you clarify/expand?” 7. Using the thumbs up 👍🏼 is basically saying "OK." If you use it more than two times in one conversation it might come off that you’re not interested in talking or you have nothing to say. 8. Using emojis will make you come off friendly and approachable because emojis show emotion. Text without emotion sounds more distant and less emotionally expressive. 9. You don’t have to post everything about yourself and your life. You can post what you are comfortable with. If you are not familiar with social media I would recommend posting a little bit and then try to grow your comfort zone with it. You don’t want to overshare or overstep your boundaries and then feel exposed. 10. You can add people that are in your recommended friends list if you have a person or job or college in common. If you have nothing in common it may be unusual behavior and they might not accept your friend request. It’s risky adding people you don’t know but that’s up to you. 11. Know that whatever you post online will be seen by others. Always be aware of this. It’s very hard to share a lot and feel like you can be private with what you shared. 12. A lot of people don’t know how to translate their real life personality into their online world. Be aware of this and try not to rely on your impression of someone based on their online presence. 13. There are tactful ways of managing boundaries and communicating with people if you are no longer interested in talking to them. If you don’t want to read someone’s posts go to their profile and unfollow them. Unfriending is different from unfollowing. This will keep you friends with the person but you don’t follow them anymore so you don’t see their posts in your timeline. 14. If you want to completely block someone you certainly can do that however if the person you block is a coworker or close family member or a neighbor it might make things awkward. Unfriending someone might cause awkwardness as well. It’s up to you to decide what you want to do. Unfriending or blocking is a tactful and clear way of saying “I don’t want to talk to you.” I would like to share some statistics with you on how having a website influences consumers.
🎨 I currently offer web site design for small business and because of the economic impact COVID-19 has on business, I am willing to work with your budget- which will help both of us. 💌 Message me anywhere on social media or call/text me at 619-630-9608 and we can have a conversation to understand what you want and I what I can do. 🗣Talking and discussing doesn’t mean that you’re committing to hiring me, it just means you’re interested in learning about my services. 🇺🇸 I work with small businesses located in the United States. |
AuthorMy name is Shahed (or Shae). I am 32 years old and currently live in San Diego, California. I have a B.A. in Political Science and Sociology and a Master's in Education. I taught myself graphic and web design at the age of 14 and it has been my hobby, passion and professional career since then. I also love to write, research and share my expertise with business owners. I enjoy walking everywhere, yoga, spa treatments, traveling, eating delicious food, and love watching cat/kitten videos! ☺️ ArchivesCategories |